Unexpected Sightings

So I went out last night to say goodbye to a coworker who is leaving. There was a whole bunch of us out and while we separated out in to various groups of people most mingled between the "cliques" through the night.

At one point I noticed a bunch of the women leaving in a pack and going the opposite direction of the bathroom. When one got back I asked her where they went. She informed me that a former coworker was at said bar and they went over to say hi. She encouraged me to do the same, little did she know that this former coworker was "the first".

After kicking myself for not dressing up and looking hot, I decided I needed to see for myself how he's been (and more importantly if time has been kind). Two of the women from my group were still talking to him as I approached the table he was sitting at with an unfortunate looking girl. He's no Brad Pitt but he's not bad looking, she on the other hand was fugly... and not his wife. I learned later after noticing no wedding ring that they had divorced about a year in to the marriage because he cheated on her a bunch of times.

Ironically when I was spending time with him he told me that he had cheated on almost every single one of his girlfriends... guess the saying holds true - once a cheater always a cheater.

When I walked up he looked surprised to see me, said hi, and then promptly continued talking to the other girls and ignored me... ouch. Perhaps it was because he was so awed at how much I've grown up in the last 5 years that he could not bring himself to talk to me. At least that's the story I'm sticking with for my ego.

The encounter made me realize that there are only 3 men from my past who I really would prefer never to have to see again. There's Mr. False Promiser who I met during a weekend conference/training session who did just that, made a bunch of false promises only for me to find out weeks later that after spending the night with me he went home and popped the question to his girl friend. Nice right? There's Mr. Two-Timer... the guy who swept me off my feet, the world stopped when we kissed, and then I woke up and found out he had a girlfriend the entire time. And the last is Mr. Dishonesty.. I've blogged about him before and that's as far as I need to go in to for now.

But The First... I actually would have really liked to have had the opportunity to sit down and catch up with him. I used him as much as he used me and our ending was obvious so there are no hard feelings or lingering emotions.

Guess this time my past doesn't want to deal with me. Perhaps we'll run in to each other in a different situation and will be able to catch up on life. Or perhaps we won't as we were not friends before we got together so there is no reason for us to be friends now. Either way, it was good to see The First though, and I hope that life treats him well.